toxic relationship


Whether you’ve been in multiple relationships or just one, you intuitively know what a healthy relationship is.

The elements of a healthy relationship always flow and it just works! Even when partners bump heads from time to time, they seem to easily get through it.

For example, if a couple is going through tough times such as a financial hardship, they will come together with a plan through communication and supporting each other. They will stick with each other even when things go wrong.

In a healthy relationship, there is unconditional love, communication, trust, understanding and respect just to name a few.

If you are currently in a relationship and you notice that you’re not getting the respect that you deserve, then most likely, you’re in a toxic relationship.

I am going to share 5 signs of a toxic relationship.

Now I do want to say, you may recognize some of these signs that you may carry and not just your partner.

It’s not always the other person that’s toxic… it could be you as well.

If you find some of these signs in yourself, at least now you know and can do something about it.

The 5 Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship are:


Does your partner constantly check on your phone every time it rings or whenever you receive a text? Or do they check up on your social media often to see what you are doing? Maybe your partner doesn’t but you do? Either way, this is toxic behavior!

There should be trust in a relationship and if you don’t have trust, you or your partner will sabotage the relationship by doing things like this.

Stop this! This destroys the relationship.

I was involved with someone that wanted to know my every move and my whereabouts. It was so stressful!

Maybe they feel like you’re cheating on them (or vice versa) when you wanna hang out with friends.

Whether it’s you or them, this type of behavior shows that they are insecure. Working on building trust is the key towards gaining trust in a relationship.


When your partner makes you feel guilty for everything, this is toxic.

This is when you have done nothing wrong but they can convince you to feel like you did. Basically, try to play the reverse psychology role on you.

It can be as small as this… “I guess it’s ok if you go out without me, whatever makes you happy. Even though I really wanted and thought that we were going to hang out together tonight, but have fun, it’s cool.”

You see what they did there and how they turned it on you to make you feel guilty? They are trying to make you feel bad if you think about it.

I’ve had this happen to me and they have almost become so good at trying to manipulate me until I eventually caught on.

All of this is mind games they play! Don’t give in to this!


I despise liars! This is one of those signs that I immediately notice right off the bat. I can tell when someone is being dishonest quickly and it’s a huge turnoff!

The first way you can tell if your partner is being dishonest is by their body language and seemingly avoiding eye contact.

Another huge indicator of dishonesty is acting in a suspicious manner and being secretive.

Also, they are not open enough with you to tell you about where they are or what they’ve done for the day. Not to say that you need to know their every move or whereabouts.. but if you just ask but they leave you with no answers and wondering, is a sign of them not being truthful to you.

Not being honest is toxic because it leaves you with worries, and stress.


This is one of those relationships when couples argue and call each other out of their names (which makes matters worse), break-up and then get back together only to repeat it all over again.

Omg this is so toxic. I have seen this time and time again with couples. They will insult each other, criticize each other but can never have a proper, healthy communication with each other.

I believe that they’ve gotten so used to the relationship being the way it is that now they feel like it’s normal.

I am here to tell you that if this is what you and your partner are going through, it is not normal. It is extremely toxic and damaging to your mental health.

Seek help before it becomes physically abusive.


When you have set boundaries in your relationship but your partner tries to slickly control it because they want to have it their way.

You may want to go along with it just to keep the peace but this is a bad idea because the more they overstep them, the harder it will be for them to respect it.

You have to make sure that the boundaries are concealed and not allow them to manipulate you into going along with what they want.

Be firm about what you set and be sure that people you’re in a relationship with respect it no matter what. Even if you love and see yourself with this person, it doesn’t matter, it’s about how you feel.

These are just 5 signs that you are in a toxic relationship. There are much more but if you are experiencing any of these signs above, it is time to re-evaluate your relationship.

If you are still unsure if you are in a toxic relationship, that’s ok. Schedule a Free breakthrough call so we can discuss your situation and get to the root cause of what’s going on in your relationship.

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Rochell Smith

Relationship Coach

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